Divorce is a major life change, but I’ve come to learn selling the family home is just as major.

Before our divorce, I always envisioned a life and future that included growing old with my husband in our beautiful home and sharing the joys of our children together. Now as I pack up, discard, and donate, I find myself reflecting on each photo, old toys, clothes and every memory that is associated with my house. It is truly sad and overwhelming at times. I keep asking myself, what is really going on underneath? Why am I not excited for this new chapter in my life to find a home that I can make my own to create new memories? Of course, this is a big undertaking and life change, but what is getting me stuck?

I suddenly realized selling my house had nothing to do with the home. The home is within me and the rest is external. I learned three things to help me through this difficult process:

Acknowledgement: selling my house is my new truth. Although challenging at times, seeing, feeling, knowing, and sensing the possibilities available with this unchartered territory is the first step to reconciliation.
Acceptance: I have the opportunity to create a more enjoyable life while discovering an inner peace and joy rather than attempting to control outer events and circumstances. I am learning to focus on what is, what can be, and what I can do to experience fabulous.
Appreciation: I am thankful to be loved by family and friends. I am grateful that I can laugh, feel safe, be happy and also motivate others to feel the same. I accept that everything in life happens for a reason and there is no wrong or right path. Lastly, I appreciate that wherever I live is a place that I can make a home filled with love and happiness.