Divorce is a major life change, and although you might feel lost, it doesn’t have to define you. There is an opportunity to learn and grow and begin to “change things up” so you can have the life you want. First, let’s acknowledge that there is going to be a transitional period where many feelings are showing up, perhaps fear, sadness, anger and regret. It’s imperative to embrace these feelings with empathy as though you were showing empathy for a best friend or family member.

It might help if you ask yourself these post-divorce questions

What do you want now in your life?
What is your dream?
What is your purpose?
In 1 month from now, where do you want to be? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year?
What are you searching for?
How will it feel to be there?
What are you grateful for?
Who do you want to be?
What does that look like?
What is important to you?
Why is that important to you?
Who do you admire or what type of person do you look up to? If he/she could offer you advice, what would that be?
What are you 3 best qualities that you can bring to the situation?

You might consider asking yourself one question at a time until you can answer it with clarity and conviction, perhaps you can meditate on each question. Take time to reflect on these empowering questions to find the answers within you.

One last question: how would that feel to find those answers and live the life you choose?